Hurtful communications

When people are hurt in a romantic relationship, the only thing that can bring healing is absolute, unconditional love, shared without any inhibitions or holding back. If they cannot share or exchange that absolute, unconditional love, they should not attempt to communicate at all.

When people are hurt in a romantic relationship, every bit of communication (outside of absolute, unconditional love), only leads to more hurting. They may attempt to be friendly or to clarify something or to answer a question or to merely greet or bid farewell; they may even talk to show empathy or sympathy, to share or express hurt; they may even have the noble intention of helping each other heal. In all such attempts at communication, there will only be more hurt, more confusion, more anger.

So, if you are hurt, and if you cannot share unconditional love and love only, simply let go and just get the hell away. Don't even wait to say a proper goodbye. There's no such thing as a proper goodbye in such cases, anyway.

Morning Thoughts - Dec 1st, 2006

1. My arms were stuck out from under the blanket when I woke up this morning and they were freezing. Even within the shelter of my home, it gets so cold. As I got under the hot shower, I wondered about the homeless people and street sleepers. The winters must be so tough on them. How miserable they must feel every night! I am the kind of person who can sleep almost anywhere, and cold is about the only thing that can keep me from my sleep. So, I have extra sympathy for those poor people with no homes.

2. This morning, I flipped the monthly calendar over to the new month, the last month of the year. I am amazed at how quickly time seems to fly. It feels like only last month that I hung up this 2006 calendar at work. There is another calendar at home which I have not even hung up yet. I always thought that I would come around to hanging it soon, but kept postponing. And now, the year is almost over!