When people are hurt in a romantic relationship, the only thing that can bring healing is absolute, unconditional love, shared without any inhibitions or holding back. If they cannot share or exchange that absolute, unconditional love, they should not attempt to communicate at all.
When people are hurt in a romantic relationship, every bit of communication (outside of absolute, unconditional love), only leads to more hurting. They may attempt to be friendly or to clarify something or to answer a question or to merely greet or bid farewell; they may even talk to show empathy or sympathy, to share or express hurt; they may even have the noble intention of helping each other heal. In all such attempts at communication, there will only be more hurt, more confusion, more anger.
So, if you are hurt, and if you cannot share unconditional love and love only, simply let go and just get the hell away. Don't even wait to say a proper goodbye. There's no such thing as a proper goodbye in such cases, anyway.
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Take care, LL, and be well. Wishing you lots of love, and peace.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Priya.
Dear LL,
ReplyDeleteI stumbled across your blog while looking for literature on street sexual harassment...and stayed to read a lot more.
There are several things about your outlook on life and interests that remind me of a very special person whom I lost. Don't know why I'm telling you this...but just felt that I must.
May you have a life of love and fulfillment :)
Take care.
Dear Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. And thanks for your kind wishes.
I wish you also the very best. Feel free to visit my blog often and do keep in touch. Although I cannot take the place of this special person of yours, new friends are always welcome.
LL
Libran Lover -
ReplyDeleteI feel this is so true - but, without expecting you to be my personal counseler :) - what can we do when we must interact witht eh person who has hurt us so badly?
Rehana
Rehana,
ReplyDeleteWhy do you HAVE to interact with the person? Is it because they are a colleague? That situation must really suck. That's partly why people advice not to 'fish in the company pool'.
The best you could do in such a situation is to keep all interactions to the minimum, be professional at all times, and try your best to move away - to another team, another department, another floor, another job.
Good luck. I hope it works out for you.
LL