"Difference between love, romance, and sex?"

Question on a message board:

So, what do you think is the difference between love, romance, and sex?

My response:

For animals and gods, they are all the same. That is why I ask people to get in touch with the animal and divine sides within themselves. Every person has three aspects: animal, god and human. Getting in touch with the animal and divine sides within us will help us love and make love truthfully, sincerely, joyfully.

- Swami Libran Lover

Sex quote of the day!

Wow! I was reading some random blog and came across this line:

I'm" at the farthest point right now from whatever the next time I'm going to have sex is but I'm just good for now.

Is celibacy really possible?

I have tried to be celibate, and here's my conclusion:
It is very difficult for a normal healthy active male to be celibate. He would be celibate only under the following conditions:

1. No opportunities for him to slip.

2. All his senses are protected from sexual stimuli. In our current society, this condition is almost impossible to achieve for a person living a normal life.

It must be easier for girls to be celibate than for guys. At least they behave as if it is.

Disclaimer: There are exceptions to all of the above.

Sentiments: I feel sad for people who are deprived of loving intimacy. It is one of our fundamental needs - like food, water, air, clothing, shelter. No one should be deprived of it.

"why did God make these guys like this......"

Some poor girl's frustrated post on a message board:

Hi friends,
Juz wanted to share....one thing that i have realized in my life till now....All the guys are the same....they want the same thing.....SEX...watever the thing or relationship starts with...they come to there asliyat......have seen and experienced a lot......
Really sometimes wonder....why did God make these guys like this......

Wat do u guys say???

What I say: Good question. If God did not want guys to be "like this", he would not have made us "like this", right? Since he made us "like this", it clearly indicates God wants us to be "like this". If that is God's will, should not every woman follow it and give in to guys' desires? Why are you complaining or resisting?

"Is it my fault that I felt like kissing in the temple?"

Found this post on a message board:

I was at a religious seminar in a Hindu Temple here in North America. The lady who was sitting before me had almost 80% of her back exposed. She was wearing a low cut blouse. Her husband is a very orthodox person, recites vedas for hours every week.

I was distracted by the way this woman was dressed. In fact, I felt like kissing her back.

I think it was her mistake that she was dressed inappropriately like that. I could not concentrate on the seminar topic. Is it my fault that I felt like kissing her? She was dressed to seek attention. What else?

My response:

This seems to be a troll. Yet this is a question that so many of us face at different levels in life. So, let me answer.

All of us have voluntary muscles and organs (arms, legs, eyes) as well as involuntary muscles and organs (heart, stomach, ears, etc.). The action of the involuntary organs are not under our control. Our only responsibility towards the involuntary organs is to keep our system healthy for their healthy functioning. Voluntary organs are in our control. If these organs do something wrong, we are responsible and at fault.

To fall in love, to feel like kissing, to be sexually excited, to grow in size, to blush, etc. are often functions of the involuntary organs. No one is to be blamed for them. As a consequence of this involuntary reaction/stimulation, if your voluntary muscles do something that would cause harm to yourself and/or to others, you are certainly at fault.

I hope this helps.

Swami Libran Lover

Try it in the following places!

Posted on August 4, 2004 18:24 PM EST

I would like to try it in the following places:

1. Airplane restroom when flying through turbulence, with both of us drunk.

2. In space with zero gravity.

3. Standing up behind a waterfall.

4. Back of a moving car with tinted windows, while it is being driven through crowded Indian streets.

5. On top of the running washing machine in the community laundry room, late in the night, with the possibility of getting caught.

6. If you hike up Kumaraparvata in Karnataka on a clear day, from the top of the mountain, you can see rolling hills on all sides, reaching far into the horizon, looking like an ocean of stones, with waves and all, in suspended animation. Would love to reach there at sunset, tired from the day's hike and make slow, sweet, exhausted love, with that vista of ocean of hills spread all around us.

7. Under the full moon, star-filled clear sky, in the deserts outside Phoenix, on a balmy night.

8. In a houseboat on a Kashmiri lake or the backwaters of Kerala.

9. On a secluded beach in Goa, early in the cool morning breeze.

10. When there is a wedding in the family and the house is full of relatives... Would be nice to make quiet love under a shared blanket, on top of the terrace, open to the starry night, with relatives sleeping all around us and the possibility of getting caught.

11. In my home balcony, on the swing, while a Bangalore thunderstorm raged around us.

12. In the shower, while being barely awake.

13. On the dining table, just before breakfast.

14. Crowded clothing store's trial room. The store is crowded, not the trial room. :D

15. Quickie in the verandah, just before leaving for work.

Oh, I could go on and on!