Toughest in Love

Love is not always easy. As tough as love can get, there are two things which are the toughest in love.

1. Distance: This could mean being distant from the beloved geographically or emotionally. When you love someone, you want to be with them, close to them, sticking to them as much as you can. You want to be able to reach out to each other whenever you feel the need. You want to be able to see them. You want to be able to share with them, all the new or interesting or beautiful things you come across. You want to be so close as being two souls in one body, or one soul in two bodies. When we are distant from the beloved for whatever reasons, we feel like a body without a soul, like half a person. We don't live our life fully. Our thoughts and emotions, our heart and soul, are always away, in some other place, searching and reaching for the beloved. Geographical distance is quite tough. Tougher than that is when the beloved is right there in front of us or talking to us everyday, and yet emotionally far from us, not sharing the love with us.

2. Letting go: The other thing which is really tough in love is letting go. When we love, we have lots of desires, hopes, dreams. When the person we love does not share the same desires, hopes and dreams, we have to let go of ours. We can't force the other person to go against their heart. We can't talk them into it or persuade them. We just have to let go. Letting go of our own desires and dreams, to subjugate them to the desires and well-being of our beloved, letting go of the beloved, just simply letting go without getting anything in return is the greatest act of love. And it's also the toughest.